How Holding Grudges Against Someone Lowers Your Vibrational Energy

Our entire world is made up of vibrational energy; ourselves included. Have you ever wondered why happy-go-lucky people tend to be a magnet to others while Debby-Downers tend to repel company? That is simply because of the vibration (“vibes”) they give off. (Aka. Vibrational Energy)

Just like certain places cause us to become uneasy or more alert, other places can make us feel completely safe and relaxed; that’s because energy is constantly communicating to us and the universe.

With that being said, the vibrational energy ignited in you is a vital part of your life and the happiness you experience. Unfortunately, more than three-quarters of society is existing in a very low vibrational state. Nearly every single person on this planet experiences some kind of trauma in their life. Whether it be when they were children, young adults, and/or in adulthood, trauma is an inevitable part of life. Regardless of how successful someone is on the outside, everyone will go through something meant to destroy them. This is the Universe’s (aka. God) way of showing you “tough love.” Only through pain and suffering can we understand the valuable lessons we would never have come across otherwise.

Tragically, most of us refuse to learn from the pain, which is why the majority of individuals live in that low vibrational state. Instead, many internalize it. It ends up coming out of us in the form of self-destructive coping mechanisms, hurting the ones we love, cutting ties with people we care about, or a personal favorite I use to do- hoping to gain pity from others so I could validate my pain.

While I’ve touched on a couple of those key points in the past, today we are focusing on holding a grudge against someone. Grudges fall under the category of nasty coping mechanisms because when we hold a grudge, we give ourselves reason to hold onto the pain associated with that specific person or situation. It’s a coping mechanism used when we don’t want or know how to let go of something.

We must not confuse holding grudges against someone with cutting out toxic people in our lives. One is an emotional feeling of ill will or resentment because you don’t like or agree with something someone else did or how they handled a situation (that possibly affected you). The other is cutting physical/verbal contact with a person because of mental, emotional, and physical abuse, and this is what has to be done to healthily move on in your life.

Many times, the grudges we hold against someone are petty or we make them a lot bigger than they need to be. The truth is everyone deserves forgiveness. Yes, even the people we don’t think deserve it. Why? Because forgiving someone doesn’t make what they did right, and it doesn’t mean you are now suddenly “giving them a free pass”. Forgiveness is for you. It is so you can heal your wounds that were created by the matter involving the person you’re holding a grudge against.

Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. When you choose to forgive you allow those open festering wounds to finally scar over. The same wounds that have kept you up at night, that have made you so sad/angry you could scream, and that have been torturing you from the moment you received them will finally become a scar upon your heart. That doesn’t mean all the pain will go away, but it does help you to raise your vibrational energy so you can begin to bring more positivity and happiness into your life. The more love you bring into your heart, the less that pain will sting as the years continue.

There might be some of you reading this thinking, ” I’ve held a grudge against someone for years and my life is great, so I don’t know what you’re talking about.” Unfortunately, this is denial at its finest.

When you hold a grudge against someone who has hurt you, you harbor pain and negativity. You damn near plant a garden of it within your mind, and every time you think poorly of the person you’re upset with, you water that garden. The longer you water the garden the larger it begins to grow and the more it influences your life.

As I stated, in the beginning, cutting someone out of your life due to toxicity and abuse is a must, but even then, you must NOT allow the ill will to grow within you towards that person. Your mind does not pick up details. It knows that person made me angry or caused me pain, so I hope they feel as bad as they made me feel. Whether that person beat the hell out of you or slept with your best friend, your mind doesn’t care. Holding a grudge is holding a grudge and it will cripple you in the long run.

Living off low vibrational energy limits your potential. No matter how deep you push that resentment deep down inside you, it will reemerge in time. It’s going to be triggered when you see a picture, or think of a memory, or hear a song. All the anger, sadness, hatred, pain, and negativity tied to that grudge will randomly manifest itself in your life the longer you refuse to let it go and forgive.

I know it’s easy to sit behind a keyboard and type this to you all, but I have had my fair share of grudges I had to get over. Family, friends, clients, and even random acquaintances that treated me poorly have all had a space inside my head where I replayed WHY I had every right to despise them. In the end, I realize I was really just punishing myself.

The truth is when we learn to detest no one and we find the grace and peace that forgiveness provides, we take our power back. We no longer run off negative energy but start existing on an entirely new level. One where we are no longer reliving pieces of the past. One where we begin to discover just how beautiful life can be when we start living in a high vibrational state because we finally let go of old energy that no longer served us.